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Canada A mother laments the scourge of opioids and the daughter she could not save

15:00  24 february  2020
15:00  24 february  2020 Source:   ottawacitizen.com

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a little girl standing in a room: Martine Rhéaume poses with a photo of her daughter Mallory Morton-Rhéaume In Ottawa Thursday Feb 20, 2020. Mallory Morton-Rhéaume , was taken off life support on Jan. 30 after suffering an overdose of fentanyl. © Tony Caldwell Martine Rhéaume poses with a photo of her daughter Mallory Morton-Rhéaume In Ottawa Thursday Feb 20, 2020. Mallory Morton-Rhéaume , was taken off life support on Jan. 30 after suffering an overdose of fentanyl.

It’s been less than four weeks since Martine Rhéaume held her daughter’s hand for the last time, saw her last breath, felt her final heartbeat.

“For a mother, to see my child die, it’s like I’m between two worlds. It’s surreal,” she said, recalling the day doctors turned off the ventilator that had kept her daughter, Mallory Morton-Rhéaume, alive. Five days earlier, Mallory had been found unconscious after injecting herself with fentanyl in the bathroom of a Toronto homeless shelter. She was a week shy of her 30th birthday and had spent the last 18 years struggling with a catastrophic mental illness and addiction.

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“There’s this feeling of incompetence and an inability to respond to your child’s need,” said Martine, her composure breaking, the steadying hand of her husband, Christian, on her shoulder.

“And as a mother, that’s what you are. You are made to answer and respond to your child’s need. And I could not do it. It was beyond my ability. I’m an educated person. I work with youth. I’m experienced. I’ve been teaching since 1982. I have been exposed to all kind of things, and yet, I was not able at the end to save my own daughter.

“It’s a terrible, terrible feeling for a parent.”

Nearly 4,600 people died of apparent opioid-related causes in Canada in 2018 — more than 12 a day. Mallory Morton-Rhéaume’s death will be recorded among the 2020 statistics, part of Canada’s ever-increasing toll of opioid deaths.

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“Toronto’s Medical Officer of Health describes the public health emergency of opioid-related deaths as ‘the defining health crises of our time,'” Mallory’s family wrote in an extraordinarily honest obituary that acknowledged both Mallory’s mental health issues and her addictions.

“A fitting remembrance for Mallory would include contacting your MP and MPP to encourage them to respond to this crisis in Ontario and the rest of Canada,” the obituary said.

A call for action seemed like an obvious thing to do, Martine said.

“Governments are so important and crucial in this. They have the resources to help people.

“In French we have a saying, politique de l’autruche (ostrich politics). You put your head down in the sand and you think it’s going to go away. But we need to act more proactively and not wait any longer. There is definitely something that is threatening the younger generation.”

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The mother got totally submerged in her daughter 's addiction to the point that it was taking over her life and overwhelming her . It was affecting her relationship with her other children and the man she was dating and making her an anxious mess and she needed to get help to stop it from ruining her life.

a girl in a pool of water:  Mallory Morton-Rhéaume died Jan. 30 when she was taken off life support after suffering an overdose of fentanyl. She was a week shy of her 30th birthday. (Family photo) Mallory Morton-Rhéaume died Jan. 30 when she was taken off life support after suffering an overdose of fentanyl. She was a week shy of her 30th birthday. (Family photo)

Mallory Morton-Rhéaume was born Feb. 7, 1990, a healthy happy baby. She loved animals, writing and music. Her poems won awards in Ottawa Public Library competitions. She played violin with the Ottawa Youth Orchestra. She played competitive soccer and water polo and loved cycling and snowboarding. She dreamed of becoming a veterinarian or working in animal rescue.

But the cracks that would shatter her life began to appear when she was 12. She developed an eating disorder and was admitted as an in-patient into CHEO’s eating disorder clinic. She began to drink in high school and at age 18 was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, a pernicious, long-lasting mental illness that would plague her for the rest of her short life.

It was about this time that she began using drugs: marijuana and cocaine, at first, and eventually harder drugs injected intravenously.

Martine never understood how Mallory could care so much about animals and other people and so little for herself.

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“She was a vegan. She would say to me, ‘I refuse to eat animals because you kill animals.’ And yet, she would inject the hardest and most terrible drugs. It was so hard for me to understand how on one hand you would be so cautious about what you intake and then so desperate in taking something that will actually kill you.”

Martine took her to hospitals and clinics. Mallory saw doctors, counsellors, psychologists and social workers. Nothing seemed to work.

“I brought her into every hospital in Ottawa. My hope was that she would meet a person at some point that would trigger something in her and have a powerful influence. Someone who would make her think, who would make her desire to get stronger, to get healthier. But she never met anyone, at least no one that lasted.”

What she did find, however, was plenty of people who would do her harm. One aspect of borderline personality disorder can be chaotic personal relationships.

“She started to go out with men that were abusive and were terrible, terrible with her. She was beat up. She was drugged, the list goes on …”

One man, 30 years her senior, kept Mallory a virtual hostage in a drug house, sitting on her and injecting her with drugs to exert his control.

“I kept calling police — I had the address — and I was asking them for help … But the law was not on my side. It was always, ‘She’s 20 … She’s 21 … She’s 25. She’s an adult.’ That was always the end of the conversation.”

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Martine even went to court to convince a judge to issue an order to have Mallory committed to hospital for 72 hours for her own safety. But her abuser was always able to convince her to come back to him, once even posing a priest to have access to her on the ward.

“It was a terrible situation. I would call (the hospital) and ask to talk to her and they’d say, ‘She’s gone.’ I’d say, ‘What do you mean, she’s gone?’ They’d say, ‘This person came to pick her up.'”

Eventually, Mallory did lodge a complaint with police and the man was charged and convicted of assault. He served 31 days in jail, Martine said.

“He came out and the first thing he did was go right after her. So she stopped going to police. She stopped filing reports.”

When asked about the case, Ottawa police said they do not release information about domestic assault investigations.

a close up of a person holding a cat:  Mallory Morton-Rhéaume loved animals and dreamed of becoming a veterinarian or working with animal rescue. Mallory Morton-Rhéaume loved animals and dreamed of becoming a veterinarian or working with animal rescue.

Mallory was as confounded by her life choices as her mother.

“She said to me in the last two years, ‘Maman, I am not able to make the right decision. Out of two decisions, I will always choose the wrong one.'”

Martine would get Mallory into various treatment and detox programs, but Mallory would usually only last a few weeks, often being kicked out for bad behaviour,

Last September, Mallory moved to Toronto. It was the only way for her to escape her abuser. She lived on the street or in shelters.

“She was homeless and she was poor and she was sicker than ever. It was a very difficult situation,” Martine said.

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“We texted each other every day. Then there would be times when I would not hear from her for four or five days and I knew that she had used.”

A few months ago, Martine saw a story in the Ottawa Citizen about a father who’d found his daughter overdosed on opioids in the bathroom. She cut it out and shared it with Mallory.

“I read it with her and said, ‘Look Mallory. Look at how terrible this is,’ and she said to me, ‘Maman, that’s not how I’m going to die.’

“But that’s how she died.”

Martine talked to Mallory just two days before her fatal overdose.

“She was sad and depressed and yet she had a diary and in her diary she wrote plans. She wrote a list of things to do, to get better and to improve. She had hope that things would go better. She wanted to succeed. She wanted a life. She told me, ‘Aren’t you looking forward to the time when I have a little girl or a little boy?’ She wanted to have children.”

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Mallory was staying in a women’s shelter when she went into the bathroom with a syringe of fentanyl and injected herself for the last time. She was still breathing when she was found, but by the time paramedics arrived her heart had stopped. She had been in cardiac arrest for 26 minutes before doctors restarted her heart. Martine got the phone call on Saturday, Jan. 25.

“The ER doctor called. He said, ‘I feel terrible to call you with this bad news, but Mallory is here on life support.'”

Martine and her oldest son — Mallory was the middle child between two boys — went to Toronto’s St. Michael’s Hospital to be at her bedside. Mallory had wanted to donate her organs and the doctors asked Martine what music she wanted to play in the room.

“She was very colourful. She liked pink. She was a pink girl. I asked to have Aqua.”

So as Mallory’s ventilator was turned off it was to the surreal dance beat of Barbie Girl.

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“The doctors said to me that when they removed the ventilator she may breathe on her own for a few more minutes. And she did. It lasted 15 minutes. I was there with her. And I held her,” Martine said, her voice quivering.

“I apologized to her when she died. I felt maybe I could have done more. I could have done better. I held her. I heard her last breath. And I felt her last pulse.”

The nurses dipped Mallory’s hand in pink paint and pressed it onto a canvas.

“I have a print of her hand,” Martine said. “Like she’s waving goodbye.”

A few days later, Martine received a letter from the Trillium Gift of Life Network: A young adult female had been given Mallory’s liver; an adult man and a young boy, each at end stage renal failure, had received her kidneys.

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Martine Rhéaume has taught at the University of Ottawa in the Faculty of Education and the Official Languages and Bilingualism Institute for nearly 40 years. She sees Mallory’s struggle reflected among her students. She’s seen them struggle with a rising tide of stress and mental illness and says it’s a problem that must not be ignored. Five uOttawa students have taken their lives since September.

“Addiction and mental illness are very widespread. I’ve had these discussions with my own students and I see my daughter in many of them. I’m looking at them — they’re 19, 20, 21 years old — and they’re desperate. They need help. And yet, they don’t know where to go. And even though there are services out there, there are specialists and experts to meet with them, it’s not enough.”

In naming Mallory’s illnesses in her obituary and speaking so openly to this newspaper, Martine hopes to take away some of the shame that surrounds the topic.

“There is a stigma in our society about mental illness and addiction. I often felt it. When we had interactions with police officers, the way they asked questions and the way they would respond, I felt they had an attitude. It was the same with clinics. They were impatient and there was little tolerance for weaknesses, for mistakes that she made.”

She wants Canadian politicians to look elsewhere for solutions — Portugal, for example, decriminalized drugs, a policy that has reduced overdose deaths as well as drug-related crime. Mallory received help, but there didn’t seem to be a comprehensive system to deal with all of her issues.

“I know it sounds a little bit cheesy, but make it a teachable moment. To make some positive out of this situation . There’s nothing I can do to change what happened to Mallory. But there was the organ donation. And with this article, I’m hoping to talk to people in positions of leadership. That’s also a positive thing,” she said.

“There was lots done for Mallory. And there was also this feeling that sometimes she would push back the help. And she would choose not to heal.

“I know in my mother’s heart that she did not want to die. But she did not know how to live anymore.”

bcrawford@postmedia.com

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