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06:50  19 november  2019
06:50  19 november  2019 Source:   news.sky.com

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asked a former partner to choke her in bed, trial of man accused of murdering her during rough He claims he killed her accidentally during rough sex and only realised day after A statement from Grace ' s ex revealed they had a system for choking during sex Grace Millane belonged to BDSM dating sites and asked a former partner to choke her

Grace Millane ' asked man who killed her to choke her during sex because she was a fan of the 50 Shades Of Grey films ', his murder trial hears . Grace Millane , 22, died after going on a Tinder date with defendant in Auckland. Accused, 27, who cannot be named, said they talked about BDSM sex .

a group of people that are standing in the grass: The suitcase with Grace's body was found in the Waitakere Ranges, near Auckland © PA The suitcase with Grace's body was found in the Waitakere Ranges, near Auckland British backpacker Grace Millane belonged to BDSM dating sites and allowed a former partner to choke her during sex, a court has heard.

An ex-boyfriend of the university graduate from Essex said they had used a system of safe words and signals to make sure she was never in danger.

A statement from the man, whose identity is protected, was read to the jury at the trial of a 27-year-old New Zealander accused of strangling Grace to death at the end of a Tinder date.

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The man accused of murdering Grace Millane says she died accidentally during consensual sex . A British backpacker died when consensual sexual activity "went wrong", a court has heard. Grace Millane died on 1 December, the night before her 22nd birthday, while travelling in Auckland, New

One former sexual partner of Millane , whose identity has been suppressed, gave a written statement to the court saying the 21-year-old expressed an interest in choking and that the pair had tried it together. “ Grace and I explored this and researched safe practice. When we researched it we knew

The defendant, who also cannot be named for legal reasons, says Miss Millane died accidentally during consensual sex at his apartment in Auckland last December after she asked him to put his hands on her neck during rough sex.

Miss Millane's former partner said in a statement read to Auckland High Court: "When we researched it we knew the word was asphyxiation.

"Grace and I discussed keeping hands wide and on the side of the neck, never on the front.

a person standing in front of a building: Grace Millane entering hotel after date with the man accused of murdering her © NetStorage Grace Millane entering hotel after date with the man accused of murdering her

"Grace and I would have a safe word most of the time which we had discussed, something like "turtle" or something ridiculous. Grace and I used a tapping practice too. If Grace tapped me three times then it would stop.

She was fatally strangled. The media is making it about her sex life.

  She was fatally strangled. The media is making it about her sex life. Grace Millane’s story is part of a larger pattern of victim-blaming.Editor’s note: The opinions in this article are the author’s, as published by our content partner, and do not represent the views of MSN or Microsoft.

She had me choke her so hard during sex I stopped several times because I got scared she If, for example, I'd never have had any experience with sexual arousement due to oxygen lack, I’d probably ask her what she feels safe to teach me…at least this is the way I slowly learned myself.

She ' s sexually submissive. She wants you to dominate her physically during sex . Is there more I could do to make it better? I've never really had a girl that asked me to do this kind of thing. Some girls like dominant partner some doesn't. I think she is into brutal sex maybe.

"Grace would tap out maybe one in four times.

"Grace would be sure to do this and I trusted that anytime it was too much for Grace she would do this. Grace and I were careful to discuss not only the physical but the psychological aspects to practising BDSM."

a group of people posing for the camera: The suspect cannot be identified for legal reasons © Other The suspect cannot be identified for legal reasons

Statements from police revealed that Miss Millane had been active on BDSM dating site Whiplr an hour before meeting the defendant outside a central city casino.

Defence barrister Ron Mansfield told the jury: "All the evidence shows that Miss Millane was a loving, bright, intelligent young woman and she was.

"That is her reputation and that should be her reputation and her memory at the start of this trial and at the conclusion if it.

a man wearing a suit and tie: Grace Millane's parents David and Gillian have been at the trial in Auckland © Getty Grace Millane's parents David and Gillian have been at the trial in Auckland

"The fact that we need to discuss with you what she liked to do in the bedroom should have no impact on he reputation at all."

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“ She could ask that before you have sex , you both get tested,” says Nelson. “Your honesty, paired with her understanding your overall safe sex practices, gives her confidence and trust in you as a potential intimate partner .” RELATED: 13 Things You Can Start Doing Today That'll Totally Impress Her .

9. Lightly choke her . 14. If she asks you to give it to her rough, props will be your very best friend. Tie a scarf around her eyes to blind her , use handcuffs to secure her wrists together, or take out a whip to slap against her backside.

But, he said: "It's important that we are fully informed. It's not the time for embarrassment or immaturity.

"If this couple engaged in consensual sexual activity which included pressure being applied to her neck with her consent and that went wrong, that is not murder.

AUCKLAND, NEW ZEALAND - NOVEMBER 06: The Auckland High Court is pictured on November 06, 2019 in Auckland, New Zealand. A 27 year old man is charged with the murder of British backpacker Grace Millane, whose body was found  in bush in West Auckland's Waitakere Ranges on 9 December 2018. There is currently a suppression order in place, prohibiting the publication of the accused's name. (Photo by Phil Walter/Getty Images) © 2019 Getty Images AUCKLAND, NEW ZEALAND - NOVEMBER 06: The Auckland High Court is pictured on November 06, 2019 in Auckland, New Zealand. A 27 year old man is charged with the murder of British backpacker Grace Millane, whose body was found in bush in West Auckland's Waitakere Ranges on 9 December 2018. There is currently a suppression order in place, prohibiting the publication of the accused's name. (Photo by Phil Walter/Getty Images)

"Death through this mechanism may thankfully be rare but it does happen and sadly it happened here."

Mr Mansfield said the defendant admits Grace died from pressure he placed on her neck but said expert evidence was consistent with his account that it was consensual, not violent.

In a police interview, the trial heard last week, he said he only realised Grace was dead when he found her lying on the floor but admits then cramming her body into a suitcase which he buried in a shallow grave in the woods.

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Who is Grace Millane ? Grace graduated with a marketing degree from the University of Lincoln in She travelled to the North Island city in late November but alarms bells rang when she failed to On the opening day of the trial it was claimed she died after being choked during a sexual encounter

To choke , or not to choke . In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of Savage Love, I’m And let me note that my girlfriend has no grounding in medicine, physiology or anything that would lead me to be comfortable trusting her judgment about

WELLINGTON, NEW ZEALAND - DECEMBER 12:  Members of the public wealk past a photo of Grace Millane during a vigil at Civic Square on December 12, 2018 in Wellington, New Zealand. The body of 22-year-old Grace Millane was found in a section of bush just near Scenic Drive in West Auckland's Waitakere Ranges on Sunday, following an extensive search for the British tourist. She was seen on Saturday December 1 at the CityLIfe hotel in Auckland. A 26 year old man appeared in Auckland District Court on Monday charged with her murder. The judge granted a suppression order prohibiting the publication of the accused's name.  (Photo by Hagen Hopkins/Getty Images) © 2018 Getty Images WELLINGTON, NEW ZEALAND - DECEMBER 12: Members of the public wealk past a photo of Grace Millane during a vigil at Civic Square on December 12, 2018 in Wellington, New Zealand. The body of 22-year-old Grace Millane was found in a section of bush just near Scenic Drive in West Auckland's Waitakere Ranges on Sunday, following an extensive search for the British tourist. She was seen on Saturday December 1 at the CityLIfe hotel in Auckland. A 26 year old man appeared in Auckland District Court on Monday charged with her murder. The judge granted a suppression order prohibiting the publication of the accused's name. (Photo by Hagen Hopkins/Getty Images)

Mr Mansfield said his failure to call for help, disposal of Grace's body and lies to police were due to panic.

"He may have thought he wouldn't be believed," Mr Mansfield told the jury, "but don't prove him right."

The court also heard that Miss Millane had drunk so much that night that her heart may have gone into a "terminal tailspin" when she was choked during sex.

AUCKLAND, NEW ZEALAND - DECEMBER 15:  Tributes are pictured outside the CityLife Hotel on Queen Street on December 15, 2018 in Auckland, New Zealand. The body of 22-year-old Grace Millane was found in a section of bush just near Scenic Drive in West Auckland's Waitakere Ranges on Sunday, following an extensive search for the British tourist. She was seen on Saturday December 1 at the CityLIfe hotel in Auckland. A 26 year old man appeared in Auckland District Court last Monday charged with her murder. The judge has granted suppression order prohibiting the publication of the accused's name.  (Photo by Phil Walter/Getty Images) © 2018 Getty Images AUCKLAND, NEW ZEALAND - DECEMBER 15: Tributes are pictured outside the CityLife Hotel on Queen Street on December 15, 2018 in Auckland, New Zealand. The body of 22-year-old Grace Millane was found in a section of bush just near Scenic Drive in West Auckland's Waitakere Ranges on Sunday, following an extensive search for the British tourist. She was seen on Saturday December 1 at the CityLIfe hotel in Auckland. A 26 year old man appeared in Auckland District Court last Monday charged with her murder. The judge has granted suppression order prohibiting the publication of the accused's name. (Photo by Phil Walter/Getty Images)

Pathologist Dr Fintan Garavan, appearing as a defence witness, told the jury a combination of obstruction of the blood flow, pressure on her nervous system and being drunk meant she might have died quickly.

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During oral sex , do not force or purposely blow air directly into her vagina. Doing so may (very rarely) cause Encourage your partner to go on top where she can control the pace and pressure During pregnancy, a woman loses control of her own body to accommodate the life of her growing baby.

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There were no signs of her having struggled and her plight "would not be obvious to a person nearby unless you know what you are looking for," he said.

Defence barrister Ian Brookie said Miss Millane had drunk four mango cocktails, one tequila shot, two whisky cocktails herself and shared three half litre jugs of margheritas and sangria with her alleged killer during their night out.

FILE - In this Dec. 12, 2018, file photo, a woman lights candles during a candlelight vigil for murdered British tourist Grace Millane at Cathedral Square in Christchurch, New Zealand. The man accused of murdering Millane will continue to keep his name secret while a judge decides whether he can be publicly identified. The 27-year-old man appeared Thursday, Feb. 7, 2019, in Auckland's High Court. (AP Photo/Mark Baker, File) © ASSOCIATED PRESS FILE - In this Dec. 12, 2018, file photo, a woman lights candles during a candlelight vigil for murdered British tourist Grace Millane at Cathedral Square in Christchurch, New Zealand. The man accused of murdering Millane will continue to keep his name secret while a judge decides whether he can be publicly identified. The 27-year-old man appeared Thursday, Feb. 7, 2019, in Auckland's High Court. (AP Photo/Mark Baker, File)

Dr Garavan said the alcohol, in conjunction with the choking, was "an iceberg making its way into the shipping lane".

"It very likely has become an important indirect player in causing death," he said, explaining that being drunk could turn off a "safety valve" which would normally trigger someone to fight for breath.

Dr Garavan, who examined hundreds of photographs of Grace's body, agreed the primary cause of death was asphyxiation, which he said would have required just one kilogram of pressure.

Parents of murdered British backpacker Grace Millane, her father David, second from right, and mother Gillian, right, arrive at the Auckland High Court, in Auckland, New Zealand, Wednesday, Nov. 6, 2019 for the murder trial of a man accused of killing their daughter Grace. Prosecutors say Grace Millane met her killer on the dating app Tinder, and they appeared to be enjoying themselves as they visited several bars before going back to his downtown Auckland apartment. The 27-year-old man accused of killing Millane has pleaded not guilty. His name is being kept secret for now by court order. (Michael Craig/NZ Herald via AP) © ASSOCIATED PRESS Parents of murdered British backpacker Grace Millane, her father David, second from right, and mother Gillian, right, arrive at the Auckland High Court, in Auckland, New Zealand, Wednesday, Nov. 6, 2019 for the murder trial of a man accused of killing their daughter Grace. Prosecutors say Grace Millane met her killer on the dating app Tinder, and they appeared to be enjoying themselves as they visited several bars before going back to his downtown Auckland apartment. The 27-year-old man accused of killing Millane has pleaded not guilty. His name is being kept secret for now by court order. (Michael Craig/NZ Herald via AP)

But he said the absence of deeper haemorrhages in the neck muscles, fractures or scratches to the skin "would favour consensual" choking.

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My hands allow me to choke using just one hand palm against the trachea and thumb around her Once you know your partner and you can trust your own judgement on how her body feels when Being literally choked with his hands? I don’t really recall. Maybe in the past during sex , there’ s been

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