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- New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady opened up in an interview about struggling to relate to his younger son who doesn't like sports.
- Experts say it's normal for parents to feel disappointed if their kids don't share their passions, but to avoid pushing their likes onto them.
- Writer and mother Randi Mazzella shared how she experienced the opposite phenomenon and learned to embrace sports in order to bond with her athletics-obsessed son.
In the September cover story of, New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady opened up about one of the biggest parenting struggles he has faced: Trying to relate to his youngest son who doesn't like sports.
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Brady shared how he and his oldest son, Jack, 12, have a lot in common and are able to bond over athletics.
"Jack loves sports. He wants to try hard, and he never wants to disappoint his dad," Brady said in the magazine interview. "That was me."
However, 9-year-old Benjamin is different. Unlike his dad and big brother, Benjamin has no interest in sports, which caught the six-time Super Bowl winner by surprise.Tom Brady said it was 'hard' to accept that his younger son doesn't like sports
"It was hard for me," Brady said. "I was like, 'What do you mean? He's a boy; he should just do all these things that I do.'"
Like Brady, many parents are caught off guard, and may even feel disappointed to discover that a child isn't interested in their passions or hobbies. It's normal for parents to dream about painting with their little ones, if they enjoy art, or hitting baseballs in the park until it gets dark, if athletics are their thing. But experts caution parents against pushing their pastimes onto their children.
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"When children are born, all parents have fantasies about what they'll be like" Eileen Kennedy-Moore, a psychologist and author of "" told Insider. "Usually, we imagine that they'll be similar to us because that's what we know. We picture them sharing our strengths and interests."
But as Brady learned, just because a parent is a force in a particular area, that does not mean they will share the same passions with their offspring.
It may make it difficult to connect or understand a child. But it's important for parents to make sure they don't make a child feel insecure about their differences.Parents need to let go of the vision of who they thought their child would be
"Every child is their own little entity," said Michele Borba, an educator and author of several books including, "," a book about fostering empathy in children. "You never want your kid to think 'I am a disappointment to my parents because of who I am or because I am not like them."
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Once parents let go of who they thought their child would be, they can figure out who their child actually is - and start to better relate to them.
"Parents may feel a twinge of sadness at having to give up their fantasy vision of what their child would be like," Kennedy-Moore said. "But that's more than made up for by the wonder of loving their real child."Brady said he now has the 'best time' doing the things his son, Benjamin, loves to do
That's what happened to Brady as he embraced his son's unique qualities. "The reality is that Benny just likes different things," Brady said, "And it's great because now I just have to go do what he wants to do. When we do that, we have the best time."
I had a similar experience with my own son, who is now 16.
I never liked sports. I grew up surrounded by a father and two brothers who were always discussing batting averages and point spreads. My brothers played baseball and my dad coached them. It made me feel disconnected: They all shared something that I did not. And while sometimes they tried to include me, admittedly I did not make much of an effort to understand.
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When my son showed an interest in athletics at an early age, I was not surprised. By age 4, ESPN surpassed Nickelodeon as his favorite TV channel. By 7, he and my husband were spending every Sunday watching football together. I began to feel left out again, just like I did when I was a kid. In some ways, this felt worse.Doing the things your children enjoy brings you closer to them
But now I was the parent and I realized I needed to make more of an effort. If I wanted to connect with him in a meaningful way, I needed to understand and appreciate the things that he enjoyed.
One morning when my son was around 9 years old, I decided to watch a sports highlights show with him. He was a little surprised, but was more than happy to explain what was going on. After decades of avoiding sports, I found some of what he said to be confusing, especially all the rules of football. But his enthusiasm was contagious. He was thrilled to answer any question I asked.
Within a few weeks, I was checking the football scores on my own in the morning. It gave me something to discuss with him at breakfast and also clued me in to the type of mood he would be in when he woke up.
My son introduced me to a show called "30 on 30" on ESPN that profiles athletes and their life stories. While I might get bored watching a sporting event, these shows intrigued me.
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As a writer, I love hearing about people's journeys, motivations and struggles to achieve their goals. It gave me a new perspective on sports and helped me to understand why people, especially my son, have such a profound connection to them. Watching these episodes together allowed us to talk about hard work, determination and not giving up.
If I hadn't made the effort to learn about my son's passion, I think I would feel disconnected from him as he got older.
Like many teens his age, he can be sullen and uncommunicative. But even on days when he gives one-word responses to my questions, he is always up for a discussion about last night's basketball game or which team has the best shot of going to the Super Bowl. He loves that he is "smarter than mom" in this subject and is more than happy to share his vast knowledge with me.
As Borba points out, "It's great when parents reverse roles and let our kids teach us. It allows us to step out of our comfort zone."
This past summer, I convinced my son to take a weekend road trip with me to Boston. At first, he wasn't that excited about travelling with "just mom." But he felt otherwise once I said I'd treat him to the Yankees vs. Red Sox game. My son is a lifelong Yankees fan and even I knew that this is one of the biggest rivalries in baseball.
The first few innings, he was all smiles. But around the fifth, the Yankees started losing - big time. My son was bummed and we actually left before the game ended. Still, I hope when my son looks back, instead of thinking of the score, he'll remember cheering alongside his mom and sharing an ice cream sundae in a plastic baseball helmet.
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The Super Bowl 2017 is taking place this Sunday night in Houston. The New England Patriots face the Atlanta Falcons, in a duel that promises to be very offensive. Who will succeed the Denver Broncos?The Pats for their fifth crown?
Tom Brady always wants more. The quarterback of the New England Patriots will leave this Sunday night to conquer his fifth Super Bowl, he has already played six in his career. At age 39, he will return to the annual US Football Grand Mass fifteen years after his first starry night, when he was just beginning his career and almost no one knew him. He, the kid from the San Francisco area, selected in 199 position in the Draft, was destined for a replacement pitcher career. But since his debut, his precision and his phenomenal win have made him one of the best representatives of his sport. This Sunday, if he won his fifth ring of champions, he would enter the NFL quarterbacks record book.
The predictions, in any case, plead for this assumption, knowing that the Patriots are the big favorites of this Super Bowl disputed in Houston. Why ? For their propensity to win, already. Because it is full of assets, too, as every time they arrive in the grand final (Brady, of course, but also LeGarette Blount the runner or Julian Edelman the receiver). Rob Gronkowski, one of the star receivers, will not be in uniform for this (injured) match, but as always, Bill Belichick, the coach of the franchise, has not resigned himself, and has built an ultra complete training capable to dominate all the teams (as Chris Hogan, average receiver, he has advanced). His experience, but also his ability to deconstruct methodically the opponent's game are therefore "Pats", undoubtedly one of the best sports clubs US of this new century, the most feared opponents when it comes to match at stake.Atlanta for a first!
The Falcons have nothing to compare with the Patriots. Second presence only at the Super Bowl, no title to their credit in 51 years of existence, a potential of reduced fans to the State of Georgia ... Atlanta advances this Sunday in outsider. Nevertheless, this formation, like New England, has some master cards that allowed him to be there. Especially his attack, it must be said. Best of the NFL this season in this area (540 points scored), the team relies on his quarterback Matt Ryan to shine. MVP of the regular season, it illuminates the game of Falcons by its calm and ability to adapt to each situation. A bit like Joe Flacco at the helm of the Baltimore Ravens a few years ago ...
His favorite weapons? Julio Jones, catcher of great talent who helped him to make Atlanta a winning team. In the race, the Falcons have in Devanta Freeman and Tevin Coleman talented running-backs. As often, the key, with the Patriots, will be to put pressure on Tom Brady, to get him out of his comfort zone. The other key, undoubtedly facing such a team, will be to know how to keep the ball, control the clock to quickly pack the meeting and force the Patriots to play faster than usual.
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