Family & Relationships How to cope with your parents' divorce - end if you're an adult, according to experts

22:05  04 may  2021
22:05  04 may  2021 Source:   msn.com

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  • Experts say a parents' divorce is challenging, even if you're an adult.
  • Even if you're a mature adult, your parents' marriage can feel like a security blanket.
  • Talk to your divorced parents about your feelings to avoid lasting emotional damage.
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Philanthropists, public health advocates, and businesspeople Bill and Melinda Gates announced Monday that they are splitting up after 27 years of marriage.

Their three children are adults - Phoebe, 18, Rory, 21, and Jeniffer, 25 - but that doesn't mean their parents' divorce won't be challenging, experts say.

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People may assume that divorced parents' adult kids are better able to handle a split than young kids, but Rachel Sussman, a relationships therapist in New York City, said a parents' divorce after a long-term marriage, no matter what age, is upsetting and challenging.

"I think there's an element of shock and surprise for kids of any age," Sussman told Insider.

Although a parents' divorce may be painful, Sussman said there are steps you can take to navigate your way through the experience.

Even if y0u're a mature adult, a parental divorce is shocking

Sussman said it's OK for us all to admit to ourselves that, even as mature adults, the world is a scary, hard place, and sometimes you may rely on your family unit - and your parents' marriage - for a sense of security.

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In adulthood, we get jobs, pay bills, and create our own schedules, but when you're with your parents, you can revert back to being a child; being looked-after.

"There's a dynamic with even adults that when they're with their parents, they can feel a little childlike and they want to be cared for by their parents," Sussman said.

But a parental divorce can leave you feeling unstable.

"It feels like that last security blanket is being ripped out from under them," Sussman said.

Ways to cope when your parents get a divorce

It is shocking, but there are ways to recover and adapt, according to Sussman.

Sussman said clients she sees in her practice go through different stages of emotions: shock, sadness, anger, and acceptance. She advises people to articulate these feelings to their parents in the moment, to avoid lasting emotional damage.

Sussman also recommended going to a therapist who will provide an outlet to discuss your feelings, and creating a support system of friends.

A parental divorce can also lead to resiliency. If your parents had an amicable divorce and left the marriage in a happier, better place, Sussman said it may help you to navigate your own relationships and potential breakups in the future.

If you're parents had a nasty divorce, Sussman said, that doesn't mean it has to be a weight you will carry for the rest of your life.

"Maybe aspects of your life are changing, but that doesn't mean you can't still have a great life and a great relationship with both parents."

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