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—most people know that. And typically, people try to put their best foot forward with proper etiquette and good behavior. However, sometimes you may put your foot in your mouth
without even realizing it. According to experts, this is the one rude behavior you're probably engaging in often without realizing how rude it is: Telling a personal story of your own right after someone shared theirs
."We often think that we are listening
[to someone's story] but we're actually just considering how to jump in to tell our own story, offer advice, or even make a judgment—in other words, we are not listening to understand
, but rather to reply," Caren Osten
, certified positive psychology life coach, wrote in Psychology Today.Unfortunately, while you might try to use a related, follow-up story as a way to establish a link between yourself and the other person, many people err on the side of monopolizing the conversation
and making it about themselves. In fact, there's actually a sociological term that describes someone who has the ability to consistently turn a conversation back to themselves
: conversational narcissist, coined by sociologist Charles Derber
in his book The Pursuit of Attention
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Interrupting someone's personal story may also invalidate their emotions, as they could feel that you don't care about how they feel regarding the situation they're sharing. Doug Noll
, a professional mediator with decades of experience in managing and resolving conflicts
, says ignoring someone's emotions is just one way to invalidate them."Emotional invalidation is everywhere. Once you become aware of it, you will see it between parents and even very small children, between friends, at the dinner table, at parties, and at work," Noll says. "If you watch closely, you will see the person being invalidated flinch, withdraw, or become defensive. Worse, most individuals don't know that they are causing harm or being rude."
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? Unfortunately, that can be hard. Trevor Foulk
, who researches organizational behavior at the University of Maryland, told The Washington Post
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.""If someone punches you, for example, we would all agree that it's abusive," he explained. "But if someone comes up to you and says in a neutral voice 'nice shoes,' is that an insult? Is it sarcasm or something else?"The thing is, certain patterns play into what and when people see a behavior as rude. In a series of experiments, Foulk and other researchers found that people were more sensitive to perceived rudeness
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This Is the Rudest Thing You Can Ask Someone, Etiquette Experts Say
Even if you consider yourself a polite person, chances are you slip up when it comes to your etiquette from time to time. Whether you accidentally forget to end a request with "please" or inadvertently call someone by the wrong name, it's easy to make the occasional etiquette error here or there. However, there's one incredibly rude question many people ask others on a regular basis without even realize they're causing offense, according to etiquette experts.
If you ask someone why they look tired—even if your intentions are good—you're committing a serious faux pas, says etiquette expert Bonnie Tsai, founder of etiquette training program Beyond Etiquette.
"You may think you sound like you're concerned for the other person's wellbeing, but it may not be received that way. It can come off as patronizing or intrusive," explains Tsai. Tsai notes that some people may be experiencing health issues that make them look fatigued, but that doesn't necessarily mean they want to go over their medical history with you.
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Tsai notes that this question can also make it seem as though you're unduly—and perhaps inappropriately—scrutinizing their looks. "There's no need for you to make them feel like they need to appear a certain way that's acceptable for your standards or society's standards," says Tsai.
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1. "When are you going to get married?"
Sure, you may think that your friends are the cutest couple in the world, but that doesn't mean they want to be asked ad nauseam about when they're tying the knot—if they ever choose to do so.
"It's important to remember that not everyone plans to get married nor are they required to be; it doesn't matter whether or not they're single or in a relationship," says Tsai. And if you want to make sure you're practicing appropriate politesse, check out these 25 Etiquette Rules That Have Changed in Your Lifetime.
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2. "When are you having kids?"
Similarly, asking questions about someone's plan to have children—or lack thereof—is never anything short of inappropriate. In fact, in some cases, it may even bring up painful feelings.
"It may seem like a simple question, but it can be rather intrusive because you never know what the other person is going through," explains Tsai. "They may have recently suffered a miscarriage, have been trying without any success, are unable to become pregnant due to other health conditions, or simply choose not to."
3. "Why are you still single?"
You may think that asking this question is flattering because it implies that someone is a catch, but it may also conjure up some feelings of inadequacy for people who aren't exactly thrilled about their single status.
"It's important to respect the other person's choice regardless of their relationship status; we don't need to have a romantic partner in our lives to define who we are," says Tsai. "You also may never know why the person is single, if they are choosing to be on their own, or if they're focusing on other parts of their lives right now." Want to stop bugging your uncoupled friends? Then ditch these 75 Things Single People Wish You'd Stop Saying.
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5. "What's your political affiliation?"
There's no denying that politics are an unbelievably heated topic at the moment, so if you're not close enough with someone to already know their political affiliation, it's best to table this question.
"No one would like to be put on the spot by that question," says Tsai, who notes that bringing up politics can "alter the mood of a conversation very quickly." Though it may be tempting to start a conversation about the current political climate if you're relatively certain you share similar views with the person to whom you're speaking, Tsai says it's still a major etiquette error.
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"It can make people feel uncomfortable and one of etiquette's core values is about making others feel comfortable around you," she explains. And if you want to avoid a case of foot-in-mouth disease, make sure you know The Single Worst Thing You Can Say to Your Doctor.
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